After 17 months of caring for our little boy we let him go on to his next adventure. How else do you explain to a four year old that he is moving to a new house, new mom and new bed?
When we, humans, hear of a bad situation or catastrophe we are shocked and/or say "ooohhhh". It is fleeting. When we experience it, we never forget it.
I know that he has forever changed me. I know that he has forever changed the kids.
I asked a worker once, "How do the kids in the foster care system get lost in the system"? Say... one becomes a ward of the state at age two and is now 15 and is up for adoption?
"The judges." The judges give the bio-parents chance after chance. Some Foster Parents can do it, live in limbo, with parent visits, with workers coming in and out weekly. This way of life may last up to 5 years. Some of us won't, and some can't.
I can't figure out who needs chances and who doesn't. Every case is different. But, I do have an opinion.
We can't judge others for the decisons they make. I am done. I can't do it anymore. The workers say they do it for the children. I did it for the children.
Today when the worker arrived, she had another lady with her. Cameron went directly to the new lady and asked, "Are you my now mommy?"
4 comments:
Jess, I love your posts. So sorry about Cameron, that is a heartbreaker. Looking forward to seeing all of you. What does your little counter at the top say?
It is so sad!! Makes me think of the song from Wicked called For Good, it says,
Who can say if I've been
Changed for the better?
I do believe I have been
Changed for the better
And because I knew you...
Because I knew you...
I have been changed for good.
So sad. The decisions of men are hard to understand. I believe that uninspiried men and women cause many tears for those like you who love and care for no other reason then you love and care. Cameron will be a better person becuase he knew love in his formative years of life, may God watch over him.
Jessica you are such a strong person. I am amazed at how the system works. My neighbor has had a foster baby for 6 months since she was two days old and yesterday they came and took her to give the parents another chance. They have until August to prove they can do it. What if they can't? What is going to happen to that child if they fail. I know that Cameron is truly blessed to have been in your home and will I'm sure remember you always.
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