Monday, March 30, 2009

NJH- Anonymous Jersey Hater




I am so ready to move out of New Jersey. Good Bye East Coast -THE SHORE, hello to the BEACH. California here I come (or Arizona).

I try to be satisfied with what I have. I hold my baby and think...she is so happy with just the basics, food, warmth, love. Why can't I be satisfied?

Then I realize that she gets a warm, fresh bottle made when she wants it. She fusses a little and we hold her. She has warmth because she does not have to walk around in a house that is 70 degrees (it feels like 60..okay, maybe 65 because of the draft in the back door. I have needs too! Bottom line, when a baby fusses we do not give her cold or sour milk. We give her what she wants. When I fuss for the West Coast, I do not want the mid-west or Mississippi. I have needs too.




Trader Joes. I will be LOUD. They are a great grocery store, but they have left a bad taste when it comes to families and transferring. We have put in for the Arizona store twice and been left to NewJersey's $6,000 a year property taxes. And if we want to move back west we have to demote and pay for it!! And that may take a year! We have put in a decade here and commuted a dreadful year to North Jersey. (this was when my husband had to rent a bedroom for a year and come home on the weekends, this was right after I had my fourth child and also the year my migraines began and have not stopped).

And today, Kaylin saw a strange man looking in our front window. He had long hair and a black hat. She came in screaming and crying. Okay, I think we need to move! I am done with jug handles (the thrilling left hand turn done to the right??) I am done with crazy neighbors sending hate letters, (I'll explain that later), I am done with lone holidays and inviting pretend "cousins". I am done explaining to my kids that "yes, that is what it is like to have cousins". I want a Grandma and Grandpa. I tried the surrogate ones, they SUCK.

So, While I have served my time with a full heart, I am done. Done with tacit remarks, thoughts, and arguments.

Sunday, March 29, 2009

My Husband

What a wonderful husband I have. He did the dishes last night. When he does the dishes he cleans the whole kitchen better than I do. He even cleans the sink with cleaner and puts all of my junk on the counter AWAY! And if the stove needs to be cleaned it is wipe free of every crumb. And when he does laundry it is like oragami. We went shopping yesterday. I picked out some clothes and he says, "I am glad you are shopping for yourself. Good. Go get something more. Is that all you want?"
So, by reading this I do not want all the women out there to think that every man should do these things. After all, he did forget to bring me home my chocolate cake from Trader Joes today.

After reading this, one may ask him or herself "is Jessica for real?" Well, there is a motivator. As psychology will tell us we are a people motivated with self gratification in mind (what will I get out of this). See, I figure if I focus on the good things, more will come. Get my drift.

Monday, March 23, 2009

The pictures

Having a child is surely the most beautifully irrational act that two people in love can commit.
Bill Cosby

A baby is an inestimable blessing and bother.
Mark Twain

Two quotes from my favorite people. Bill Cosby's episode where Claire wants another baby and he tells her that the smell of a baby is a trap!
Well, maybe it is true. The smile in the morning. The giggle at a glimpse of Landon. The jitter of utter happiness. A baby does poscess a piece of heaven. Yea, Yea... we know...they grow up too fast. And before you know it they are teenagers.

That is why we wanted another. Those baby days are ooh so good.






Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Baby N

Meet our newest family member. The adoption should be final sometime around August.

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aprilfphotography.wordpress.com

Baby N

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Food for Your Brain

http://www.news-medical.net/?id=39890
This is all what we have heard before. It is good to fast once a month as the Gospel teaches, science says so. It is good to follow the Word of Wisdom. We knew that. This is good...

"Food is like a pharmaceutical compound that affects the brain," said Fernando G?-Pinilla, a UCLA professor of neurosurgery and physiological science who has spent years studying the effects of food, exercise and sleep on the brain. "Diet, exercise and sleep have the potential to alter our brain health and mental function. This raises the exciting possibility that changes in diet are a viable strategy for enhancing cognitive abilities, protecting the brain from damage and counteracting the effects of aging."

G?-Pinilla analyzed more than 160 studies about food's affect on the brain; the results of his analysis appear in the July issue of the journal Nature Reviews Neuroscience.

Omega-3 fatty acids - found in salmon, walnuts and kiwi fruit - provide many benefits, including improving learning and memory and helping to fight against such mental disorders as depression and mood disorders, schizophrenia, and dementia, said G?-Pinilla, a member of UCLA's Brain Research Institute and Brain Injury Research Center.

Synapses in the brain connect neurons and provide critical functions; much learning and memory occurs at the synapses, G?-Pinilla said.

"Omega-3 fatty acids support synaptic plasticity and seem to positively affect the expression of several molecules related to learning and memory that are found on synapses," G?-Pinilla said. "Omega-3 fatty acids are essential for normal brain function.

"Dietary deficiency of omega-3 fatty acids in humans has been associated with increased risk of several mental disorders, including attention-deficit disorder, dyslexia, dementia, depression, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia," he said. "A deficiency of omega-3 fatty acids in rodents results in impaired learning and memory."

Children who had increased amounts of omega-3 fatty acids performed better in school, in reading and in spelling and had fewer behavioral problems, he said.

Preliminary results from a study in England show that school performance improved among a group of students receiving omega-3 fatty acids. In an Australian study, 396 children between the ages 6 and 12 who were given a drink with omega-3 fatty acids and other nutrients (iron, zinc, folic acid and vitamins A, B6, B12 and C) showed higher scores on tests measuring verbal intelligence and learning and memory after six months and one year than a control group of students who did not receive the nutritional drink. This study was also conducted with 394 children in Indonesia. The results showed higher test scores for boys and girls in Australia, but only for girls in Indonesia.

Getting omega-3 fatty acids from food rather than from capsule supplements can be more beneficial, providing additional nutrients, G?-Pinilla said.

Scientists are learning which omega-3 fatty acids seem to be especially important. One is docosahexaenoic acid, or DHA, which is abundant in salmon. DHA, which reduces oxidative stress and enhances synaptic plasticity and learning and memory, is the most abundant omega-3 fatty acid in cell membranes in the brain.

"The brain and the body are deficient in the machinery to make DHA; it has to come through our diet," said G?-Pinilla, who was born and raised in salmon-rich Chile and eats salmon three times a week, along with a balanced diet. "Omega-3 fatty acids are essential."

A healthy diet and exercise can also reduce the effect of brain injury and lead to a better recovery, he said.

Recent research also supports the hypothesis that health can be passed down through generations, and a number of innovative studies point to the possibility that the effects of diet on mental health can be transmitted across generations, G?-Pinilla said.

A long-term study that included more than 100 years of birth, death, health and genealogical records for 300 Swedish families in an isolated village showed that an individual's risk for diabetes and early death increased if his or her paternal grandparents grew up in times of food abundance rather than food shortage.

"Evidence indicates that what you eat can affect your grandchildren's brain molecules and synapses," G?-Pinilla said. "We are trying to find the molecular basis to explain this."

Controlled meal-skipping or intermittent caloric restriction might provide health benefits, he said.

Excess calories can reduce the flexibility of synapses and increase the vulnerability of cells to damage by causing the formation of free radicals. Moderate caloric restriction could protect the brain by reducing oxidative damage to cellular proteins, lipids and nucleic acids, G?-Pinilla said.

The brain is highly susceptible to oxidative damage. Blueberries have been shown to have a strong antioxidant capacity, he noted.

In contrast to the healthy effects of diets that are rich in omega-3 fatty acids, diets high in trans fats and saturated fats adversely affect cognition, studies indicate.

Junk food and fast food negatively affect the brain's synapses, said G?-Pinilla, who eats fast food less often since conducting this research. Brain synapses and several molecules related to learning and memory are adversely affected by unhealthy diets, he said.

Emerging research indicates that the effects of diet on the brain, combined with the effects of exercise and a good night's sleep, can strengthen synapses and provide other cognitive benefits, he added.

In Okinawa, an island in Japan where people frequently eat fish and exercise, the lifespan is one of the world's longest, and the population has a very low rate of mental disorders, G?-Pinilla noted.

Folic acid is found in various foods, including spinach, orange juice and yeast. Adequate levels of folic acid are essential for brain function, and folate deficiency can lead to neurological disorders such as depression and cognitive impairment. Folate supplementation, either by itself or in conjunction with other B vitamins, has been shown to be effective in preventing cognitive decline and dementia during aging and enhancing the effects of antidepressants. The results of a recent randomized clinical trial indicate that a three-year folic acid supplementation can help reduce the age-related decline in cognitive function.

In patients with major depression and schizophrenia, levels of a signaling molecule known as brain-derived neurotrophic factor, or BDNF, are reduced. Antidepressants elevate BDNF levels, and most treatments for depression and schizophrenia stimulate BDNF. Here, too, omega-3 fatty acids are beneficial, as is the curry spice curcumin, which has been shown to reduce memory deficits in animal models of Alzheimer's disease and brain trauma. BDNF is most abundant in the hippocampus and the hypothalamus - brain areas associated with cognitive and metabolic regulation.

The high consumption of curcumin in India may contribute to the low prevalence of Alzheimer's disease on the subcontinent.

In humans, a mutation in a BDNF receptor has been linked to obesity and impairments in learning and memory.

"BDNF is reduced in the hippocampus, in various cortical areas and in the serum of patients with schizophrenia," G?-Pinilla said. "BDNF levels are reduced in the plasma of patients with major depression."

Smaller food portions with the appropriate nutrients seem to be beneficial for the brain's molecules, such as BDNF, he said.

G?-Pinilla showed in 1995 that exercise can have an effect on the brain by elevating levels of BDNF.

He noted that while some people have extremely good genes, most of us are not so lucky and need a balanced diet, regular exercise and a good night's sleep.

http://www.ucla.edu

Monday, March 9, 2009

Thank goodness for the little things:

The Flu…..Did you get your flu vaccine? We opted for the real deal. It hit our house over 10 days ago. We are on the last aches, pains, sniffles, and coughs of the 6

days of fever, plus 2 more days recuperating. It did pass over a couple of us. (Knock on wood). I thought…I can handle it- sick kids laying on the couch, no sleep,

answering their beck and call. It did go okay. Until……

Erman woke up Saturday morning with a pain in his back that would not go away. He was restless. I had never seen

Him pace the floor in pain. He tried to lay down. He tried to walk it off. The pain came around to his abdomen.

Then he said it felt like he was punched in his groin. I had been giving him lemongrass and helicrysum oil for

His congestion. He said that it was the pill I gave him that made the pain start!

The oils help with congestion and cough, but they are also a kidney cleansing oil. I looked up kidney stones and

Sure enough, lemongrass and helicrysum are used to treat kidney stones.

So, while I did cause his pain, he can thank his lucky stars that it was just a 2 mm kidney stone and not a 7 mm!

The internet describes kidney stones worse than having labor. He said now he knows how I felt when he had to rub my back during labor!! It is

So nice to be understood.     

I missed my mom this week. I wanted her here so bad. I dropped Erman off at the ER for the pain and came home to

Sick kids. Jaida was a lifesaver. She was amazing. So what got me through this week of sick kids and a husband

with a kidney Stone:



 

Trader Joes New Maple Leaf Cookies, 3 empty boxes later and maybe a few pounds (who would know, I

Refuse to own a scale, but I measured my inches and it said, I am still "practically perfect in every way").(Mary Poppins)